Its an odd thing, most college students can’t wait for the end of finals, can’t wait to go home, see friends and family, relax, take a break from school, do nothing, get drunk (back like the high school days). The Holidays people are taking breaks doing nothing, just chilling, however, the college life is way different than the home life that we left. I don’t however, I get the same feeling when at home that I do when at school. However, there seems to be a loss of independence at home. I can’t very well go out at 11 at night and not come home until 4 am, or very well not come home at all, I mean come on most parents would be pissed. However, I came home today, I unpacked, and then was basically ignored, how crappy is that. Tomorrow I’m expected to go snowboarding, however, I’m gunna have to snowboard all week next week, and preforably that is too much for me. For Christmas, my family and some family friends are going to Steamboat, however, call me spoiled, selfish, ungreatful, but I would much rather spend the week between Christmas and New Years at home, just chillin’ or somewhere warm. Now try telling that to my family, that I just want to stay home. For the past 3 years the holiday times I’ve traveled, I just want to stay home. I’m excited but I’m not. I feel that snowboarding all week is going to cause a shit load of stress, something that I’m actually trying to avoid during break. I don’t know, it just seems to me that going to Colorado is really cultivating to a few of my family members interest. While I have an interest in snowboarding, I in all just want to relax.
I don’t know there is just something about this holiday season that feels off, can’t explain it however, I have this feeling, it could very well be the news that I got about my grandma (over the phone), word of advice to you all, never give any significant others or family, friends for that matter bad news over the phone, at least go see the person you are about to recive bad news too, its much more decent or I don’t know what the correct word would be…in human? I don’t know. Maybe it is because at school your friends, significant others become your family. It is completely a different atmosphere when at home then when at school. At school there is this independence, at home there is still the sense of independence but there isn’t. It is a different feeling.
I don’t know, there is just something that is wrong. I’m sure everyone has had the feeling of something being wrong and not being able to put your finger on it, it is a part of life. Maybe what is wrong is the sucluity of my situation. From a long time ago, I screwed up, which caused distrust among my parents and I 3 and 1/2 years later, I still feel like there is that distrust, what do I do with my time away from home? Do you do things that would make “the family” disappointed? Am I being good, not staying out too late, not getting into trouble.
Sometimes I wonder, do parents really know the truth when their child(ren) go to college, do they know about the parties? the drinking? the sex? I mean come on, parents can’t be oblivious to what is excepted in today’s society. Can they? I mean the average college kid has done at least 2 out of the 3 a month into college. Honestly, if my parents found out about some of the stuff that I do when I’m not under their roof, I think it would seriously scare the shit out of them, because I have a half and half split. I like to do somethings that are excepted by society today, that wasn’t lets say 30 years ago, but don’t like to do others. I wonder, when I look into my parents eyes, do I see disapointment? or is it concern? Is it odd that when I’m at home I am actually at home? I’ve basically lost contact with everyone that I graduated with, and no what once was freqent e-mails and facebook does not count. Half the people that are friends from High school are bascially friends on facebook. I mean come on, I have “friends” on facebook that I graduated with but in all honesty haven’t talked to them since graduation other than the happy birthday on facebook.
In all reality of the situation, I want to be home, but don’t. I love being at home, but don’t. My freedom it always feels like it is cut. If I want to do something its why are you doing that? The typical. You know, I probably know why this Holiday season is “off”, but am just too heartbroken and too scared to say it out loud especially in something as informal of a blog. Random strangers read this, people that I don’t really know. They are gone, and has hard as it is on me, it has to be harder for my cousins how are family, they are my brothers, just not complete blood. This is the first Christmas that they are gone, they were gone last year, but they weren’t really gone. He was supposed to be back already, which means that we would of spent Christmas together. One wrong turn changed not only 4 lives, but many more.
I think I am beginning to hate the holidays…not the days themselves because they bring in family togetherness and things like that, but the time it brings. If my grandma dies (which I’m told she is declining fast) then that would me that someone that I have loved has died in the vacinity of every holiday. Being at home has made me realize how much everyone of those people have been apart of my life. How one death has set in motion a chain of events that set in motion more chain of events. If someone had done something different would the out comes have been different? Would those chains be broken and be forced to write and set forth new chains? Can people actually defy they laws of the world? When people die is it a plan of some higher power (whatever your (readers) believe), or when people die is it because A. it is their time? (but what if your young? too young? how do you justify that? or B. people die because of the choices they have made? is it a combination of both? More than likely, nothing is ever a simple and easy answer.
new topic:
Finals:, when well, however, got 2 grades that I wasn’t expecting one was good, the other not so good. The not so good one I question, could be due to the fact my teacher just broke up with his 5 year relationship and was having an extremely rough time and just flew through grades and wasn’t really paying attention? I don’t know, but a B+ while good was unexpected. However, the A- that I got was extremly unexpected, good, because I think the teacher finally realized all that I had been doing, more since mid-quarter but diffenetly almost the same amount of work when the quarter first started. I have this excieted scared feeling for next quarter. Two classes are with two different teachers that I’m not too sure about. One because when I first offically met him I told him I had to go home for funerals and he laughed at me. (maybe that is his way of cooping with bad news) the other teacher I don’t know what I did to piss him off, but I don’t think he likes me very much and I can tell that simply because of a previous quarter. I worked my ass off in that class and he has the nerve to give me a C. I’ve been told that my work was better than others previous quarters and they got a better grade. So I wonder, what did I do to piss him off? Do I have to ask for more help? because that was kinda the way I had to go with the other teacher. I don’t know. Next quarter will be different for sure. Good different, I don’t know.
I don’t know, being home has this certain effect on people at least with me. It is this love hate relationship.
for now that is all, more to come, hopefully.